I am Kim Bao. A single mother of two beautiful babies. A recovering corporate executive. An every day vegan athlete, evolving, learning how to be a better human being, and eating humble pie on the daily.
My purpose is to help you understand your trauma and be a guide for you to healing and finding your way back to love.
I am you. I know where you are going. I know the obstacles you are facing because I’ve been there. Empowering you to live the life you deserve is my calling. Let me show you some shortcuts. Let me save you some time and energy. You are already there, you might know it, you might not, but with a little guidance I can help show you the way. Together we can make this journey less painful and more rewarding, so that you can live the life you have always dreamed of sooner.
My mission in life is to prevent unnecessary suffering. At the age of 7, I was molested for years by multiple men including my uncle. Sharing this information with my parent, I was told that I was a liar and not to be believed.
As a child from a divorced immigrant household, I had attended 6 schools between 1st through 8th grade. I was bullied, held down by “friends” and egged in a hallway at school. I went to a private high school having to do work study to afford tuition. Working the cafeteria as well as helping out with the boys basketball team to be able to attend school.
I grew up and went to work in the fitness industry. Working in a highly volatile, ego driven environment, sexual harassment was the norm. Being hit on by male superiors and colleagues was an everyday occurrence. I was raped by a colleague.
Tired of the machismo and being in the environment, I left the fitness industry to change careers.
Prior to leaving, I started a relationship with the father of my two beautiful babies. I went from fitness to finance.
I started from ground zero in the finance world. Eventually working my way on up. During this process, I became a full time single parent. By the end of my time in finance, I became a Senior Vice President of a small commercial bank – specializing in commercial lending.
Looking back at my life, I was the socially awkward kid. The one who didn’t belong. I couldn’t make a friend to save my life and couldn’t tell you what a healthy boundary was. I was never comfortable in my own skin. I didn’t know that “no” was allowed. It wasn’t until I became a single parent that I realized all of the healing that needed to happen.
I was an overachiever, hyper-focused, masculine energy female that got shit done. I never realized that feeling was a thing and how necessary it was. Pragmatic, no nonsense, no excuses, chip on my shoulder, held onto resentment like it was a badge, holding onto pain and not allowing it to be acknowledged. It’s just not what we do. I didn’t allow myself the time to feel because all I wanted to do was bypass all of that and move on.
I am an empath. Sensing and feeling someone else’s pain is so easy, but acknowledging my own was difficult. It got to the point where I could no longer pretend like it didn’t exist. I had to pay attention. Logically I understood, but emotionally I disconnected. It was time for me to heal.
I took the time and did the work. I continue to do the work. It’s never ending.
Understanding my own suffering, I realized who I was meant to serve.